How To Be The Perfect Bridesmaid

We were delighted to receive this guest post from Jessica Lambert of Redseven Leisure, one of the UK’s leading organisers of hen weekends. Here’s some great ideas and advice from Jessica on how to be a perfect bridesmaid:

If you’ve been selected as a bridesmaid you’re likely to feel honoured, as well as a little apprehensive! Of course you’ll also want to be the best bridesmaid possible, however, when it comes to knowing exactly what the role entails it can be difficult if you’ve never done it before. Most of what is expected will come naturally as ultimately you’re there to support one of your closest friends. Follow the guide below, which is especially useful if you are a chief bridesmaid or maid of honour, and you’ll be on the right path to becoming not just a bridesmaid, but the perfect bridesmaid!

 How To Be The Perfect Bridesmaid

The Arrangements/Fittings

A huge part of your responsibility as a bridesmaid will be to accompany the bride to venue viewings, dress fittings, help choose decorations and be involved in other related wedding arrangements. It’s important you are supportive through every step of the planning as it is the most stressful and time consuming part of getting married.  From choosing the dress to choosing the table settings, your friend will need your advice (when asked!) as well as your support in the decisions she ultimately makes.

Tip: It can be a tricky situation when it comes to choosing the bridesmaids dress but this day is not about you, so try to deal with the outcome even if it’s not most flattering choice for you!

The Hen Party

With being chosen as bridesmaid comes the responsibility of organising the hen party, potentially one of the most daunting tasks expected of you, especially if you’ve never organised one before! Talk to the bride and find out exactly what ideas she is likely to already have, as well as what she definitely doesn’t want. Another very important step is to plan as early as possible to ensure you can get everything she wants and as many of her friends can come as possible.

How To Be The Perfect Bridesmaid

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Tip: Let party planners such as Redseven take away the stress and organise the whole hen weekend for you, from giving you hen party ideas and advising on top destinations, to collecting the money from everyone.

The Big Day

On the wedding day, you need to be as cool as a cucumber whatever situation arises. You need to be there to calm the brides nerves, as well as think of the little things which she may forget, such as carrying some tissues and spare make-up to touch up throughout the day.

Tip: Make sure you know the full itinerary for the day so you know what’s going where, when and how. Ultimately, you need to be the ears and eyes for your friend as her mind will be on other things!

Good luck!

Jessica – Redseven Leisure

A great article by Jessica, thank you!  Here’s a few golden rules of our own too on how to be the perfect bridesmaid!

  • Stay calm and postivie – your bride may be getting a little anxious and worry about planning such a big event, she needs your moral support and ‘can do’attitude!
  • Be organised – keep a diary of things which you will  do together, and if you can’t make an appointment be sure to give her a call and check everything is OK!
  • Book some time fun time together to help you both relax! A girls’ day out such as a spa day or some retail therapy can work wonders!
  • Offer to help organise certain key areas, taking on a few small jobs will take less than a few hours of your time and will greatly help your bride.
  • Take photos of the planning and progress up to the wedding! Taking photos at dress fittings and shopping trips will allow the bride to look back at the whole process leading up to her special day. You can also compile a scrapbook as a unique and highly personalised wedding gift.


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